16 Stories About Friendships That Turned Sour / Bright Side
It can happen that you’ve been friends with someone for years, and then suddenly they do something that bad that you don’t even know how to react. Here are some stories from people who had a change of heart about their friends after those did something particularly frustrating.
- I have a best friend of 20 years. I went into labor and was taken to the maternity hospital. I let her know right away. While I was in labor, she was texting my husband, “Hi, you must be worried. Do you want me to come over and we’ll worry together?” She didn’t know that my husband was with me the whole time.
Their texting ended with my husband texting her no. I don’t know how to find an excuse for what she did. I can’t believe she would want to do such a despicable thing. My husband swears it was the first time she ever texted him. But still. © Overheard / Ideer - I got disappointed in my friend yesterday. We were sitting at the table during the get-together, and the subject of loans came up. It turns out that he is not ready to lend me more than $100 without a written receipt! He motivated it with some nonsense, which I still can’t understand.
And he fiercely started to prove that he would definitely go to court if I didn’t return the money. Either I have lost a friend, or these are times like this… © Overheard / Ideer - A friend didn’t go to university for a week. I decided to visit her. Her mom opened the door and said right at the doorstep that it was my fault that her daughter had fallen ill because I hadn’t taken proper care of her. She snatched the bag of goodies out of my hands, cursed at me and slammed the door.
The friend heard all this and didn’t even apologize for her mother’s actions. I don’t have a friend anymore… © Overheard / Ideer - Had a buddy in school who was a really nice guy but the absolute most negative person ever. Everything was bad and awful, never ever stopped complaining. Walked into the library — too cold, walked outside, too hot, standing in the atrium — windows 15 feet up were dusty, lights inside were too blue, but the wooden desks made things too yellow. Never stopped.
School was stressful enough, and eventually I changed my study group and location, so I wouldn’t be around him, and I just felt a whole lot better and light and happy. © Dr_D-R-E / Reddit
- My best friend asked me to find the website where I bought my clothes. She gave me her phone and left to take delivery. At that moment, she gets a text from her boyfriend, “What theater? Has she seen herself in the mirror?” I realized it was about me, because I had told my friend that I was invited to a play.
I opened their chat room, and there was a discussion of my companion, my personal life, my “shabby” fur coat and what a terrible cake they ate at my place a couple of days ago. I silently put the phone away and left. © Overheard / Ideer - Had a friend who was great in college. Super fun and the sweetest personality. Fast-forward a few years and I move to San Francisco, where she had been living since college. She was pumped we lived in the same city.
The issue? It was like pulling teeth to lock down consistent plans with her. She is one of the flakiest people I have ever met and a terrible texter. I’d have to do the majority of the leg work to set up plans.
Work around her schedule, follow up when she replies a full day later, etc. It got to the point where we’d hang out once every 3 months, almost like clockwork, to get dinner, and then the cycle would repeat. We had a blast when we did. But it felt hollow, like I was the only one invested in keeping this friendship going.
I moved to Australia and then came back a year later. She texted me super excited to see me. I tried to lock down a time to hang, and it was like déjà vu. Me doing all the leg work of setting things up. Finally, I just was fed up and decided that I didn’t need a friend who considered me such a low priority. © CAMvsWILD / Reddit
- I hired my friend as an accountant to our company after her maternity leave. She claimed she had experience. She reported directly to me and had a good salary. It was a torture for 4 months: it turned out that she knew almost nothing, she didn’t want to learn, and she didn’t want to work.
On Fridays, she started to come only at lunchtime. When I started asking for results, she said that I didn’t raise her salary, there was too much work, and she didn’t even have time to go online. In the end, she quit on her own when I explained that I had hired her to work, not to take up space.
When she left, she complained to the whole office and the management that I was a despot, and it was impossible to work with me. I was reprimanded. They even tried to persuade her to stay. She left anyway when she was told that even if I was fired, another person would be hired in my place, not her. She couldn’t accept this. © yulia h / Dzen - I had a friend who I met at university. I worked, had money, and we basically went out on my money. Later, I met a guy (now my husband) and she met some rich guy, the son of the owner of a construction company. She was preparing for the wedding, we were discussing various little things, and suddenly she just disappeared.
At that time I left the university for health reasons. And then I saw photos from her bachelorette party and wedding on social media, and found myself on her blacklist. I asked a mutual friend what was going on. She said that my boyfriend and I are “not good enough.” There was no place for “a simple nurse and engineer” at her wedding.
When we partied on my money, I was apparently “good enough.” It’s been almost 20 years, we’re no longer “a simple nurse and engineer.” And the “friend” is divorced and overboard. © kryzjovnik / Dzen
- I had a best friend, we were friends for 25 years. We worked together, were at each other’s weddings, built country houses next to each other, our children were friends.
My husband worked for a furniture firm that took part in an exhibition. Then the exhibition samples were sold at a big discount. The friend was moving into a new flat, and I advised her to hurry up and buy furniture. She was happy, but while she and her husband were thinking, a week passed.
When they arrived at the warehouse, there were only leftovers. The friend got indignant, “How come? I was counting on this furniture!” We didn’t understand her complaint. My husband is not the owner of the company. If she wanted something, she should have paid in advance. © Olga Savina / Dzen - I got 2 of my friends a job at my place of employment. I knew one of them wouldn’t embarrass me, as we were more like brothers than friends. He was my very first friend and I for him.
My other friend though, we didn’t meet until high school, and he was quite a loser, but he had my back and we just had a good bond. Of course, it only took about a year before my high school friend was fired. He should have been fired way before that, but my boss gave him a long leash for my benefit. Eventually, I told my boss to do what he had to do.
My friend was embarrassing me and didn’t give a damn that I had stuck my neck out for him countless times. I’m still working for the same company, and so is the other friend I got the job for. I’ve been there 19 years, and my other friend is going on 15 years. © PIG20 / Reddit - We have been friends since first grade, always together. Even when I got married first, we continued to be friends. She married a policeman, and he forbade her to socialize with me. The reason — my husband is “just a carpenter.”
When my friend was alone, she would run to me. And when she was with him, she pretended not to know me in the street. Naturally, I put an end to this relationship. For me, it was a betrayal. Since then, I don’t trust anyone but myself. © yulia h / Dzen - I had a close friend. It just so happened that we were getting married at the same time, and I decided to throw my friend a surprise — a bachelorette party. I asked her to help me choose a dress and brought her to a cafe. There were her friends, balloons and congratulations. She was shocked, the surprise was a success.
But then she said, “You are so infantile. You can’t decide anything yourself, you’re always hesitating. Of course, I went with you to pick you a dress.”
I always thought she was wise and asked her advice, but it turned out that she perceived it as my weakness. I cried at home, and then decided: I’ll be friends with my husband. I haven’t let anyone get close to me since. It’s been 14 years. © Morskaya / Dzen
- I recently cut off my childhood best friend because he views me as an ATM. I don’t care about money. If I can help someone out, I will with zero hesitation, but I refuse to be taken advantage of.
My breaking point was when he was finalizing his wedding party and told me that I was a backup groomsmen in case anyone cancels. We’ve known each other since we were 10 years old and have always kept contact even when he moved away, but I’m not important enough to be one of the first people considered to be there.
During that same conversation, he said that he’d still expect me to attend and hinted at wanting a cash gift from me. We haven’t spoken in a couple of months, and I hope that trend continues for the foreseeable future. © morganfreenomorph / Reddit - A friend came to visit me and saw our wedding photos. She laughed for half an hour about how my dress was “ugly.” I didn’t say anything, and she added, “If it was my wedding, I’d pick something more decent.”
Maybe she was joking, but it hit me. When I was alone, I looked at the photos for a long time and thought: was it really that terrible? © Chamber 6 / VK - I had a friend who was the godmother to my child. But after a while she stopped answering my calls and ignored my messages. Almost 15 years passed, and suddenly she called. She told me how well she was doing, only she didn’t have kids.
And began to hint that it would be nice if my child moved to her place, so that she wasn’t so bored alone. And later she even said that I would not be able to give him anything, and she would bring him up and provide everything necessary. At that time, the “child” had already turned 18 and was studying in another city. © Mad Squirrel / Dzen - My dear friend dumped me because I couldn’t do her any more favors. She pushed off my visit a couple of times, so I just quit trying. I almost lost my job because I had to pick up her daughter from school. I told her I couldn’t do it anymore. Kind of relieved because I was tired of always doing favors. © ******JanMarie / Reddit
And here’s a story from a woman whose best friend took advantage of her. Check it out.
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